I
cannot
describe
how
annoying
it
is
to
find
so
few
truly
submissive
individuals
in
The
Scene.
I
believe
that
largely
due
to
the
dummes
ruining
the
concept
of
Dominance,
people
have
come
to
associate
the
term
"submissive"
with
the
phrase,
"i
want".
As
a
submissive,
these
two
words
should
never
come
out
of
your
mouth
when
addressing
a
Dominant.
That
behavior
is
what
has
been
fostered
by
hoochies-with-whips
accommodating
kink.
Dominant/submissive
("D/s")
relationships
are
about
negotiation
on
a
completely
different
level.
your
goal
as
a
submissive
is
to
serve;
not
to
be
serviced.
Although
I
have
presented
this
article
with
a
focus
on
the
male
submissive,
the
same
concepts
apply
to
females
who
present
themselves
as
submissive.
My
use
of
the
Feminine
when
discussing
the
Dominant
includes
Dominant
males.
I
make
it
clear
that
in
no
uncertain
terms
do
I
present
that
professional
submissives
are
"substandards",
although
far
too
many
are
exploiting
the
concept
and
the
responsibility
of
being
a
submissive.
And
far
too
many
hookers
are
calling
themselves
submissive.
I'm
sure
I
will
ruffle
quite
a
few
feathers
with
My
views
and
experiences.
However,
it
would
be
advantageous
to
read
"Domme
vs.
dumme"
for
a
better
understanding
of
the
true
Dominant.
Philosophy
A
submissive
learns
technique
and
safety
and
takes
the
Fetish
Arts
seriously.
submissives
understand
that
their
greatest
opportunity
for
self-fulfillment
comes
from
true
service
and
surrender
to
a
Dominant.
subs
understand
that
surrender
is
not
something
dangerous,
but
a
state
of
glory
where
they
can
transcend
the
limitations
of
daily
life.
The
goal
of
the
submissive
is
self-evolution
towards
the
fulfillment
of
the
highest
that
life
has
to
offer
and
he
knows
that
this
can
be
achieved
through
proper
discipline
and
service
to
a
Dominant.
The
better
he
serves,
the
better
his
gratification,
knowing
that
he
is
being
the
best
he
can
be
not
only
for
himself,
but
for
his
Domme.
A
submissive
commits
to
the
Dominant/submissive
lifestyle
and
most,
in
My
experience,
aspire
to
be
owned
and
collared
by
a
Domme.
he
will
do
whatever
it
takes
to
make
his
fantasy
a
reality
through
service.
A
substandard
is
usually
a
kinkster
looking
for
an
orgasm.
he
pretends
that
he
desires
to
"serve"
a
Domme,
but
his
interpretation
of
service
is
to
receive
and,
sometimes
provide,
sexual
services.
substandards
operate
from
self-gratification
which
they
fantasize
includes
the
pleasure
of
a
Dominant.
substandards
want
to
take
all
they
can
get
from
The
Scene
and
offer
as
little
as
they
can
get
away
with,
if
anything
at
all.
A
substandard's
entire
goal
is
to
achieve
that
orgasm.
This
being
the
case,
they
seldom
research
anything
about
the
Dominant/submissive
relationship,
technique
or
anything
other
than
what
they
see
on
porn
sites.
The
Lifestyle
is
unimportant
to
him;
the
thrill
of
kink
is.
Attitude
submissives
know
that
how
they
present
themselves
will
determine
the
quality
of
Dominant
who
may
consider
them
for
service.
he
will
actually
read
the
Domme's
website
to
discover
more
about
Her
and
the
ways
that
he
can
serve
Her
the
way
She
wants
to
be
served
while
offering
the
best
he
has
to
offer.
A
true
submissive
asks
what
s/he
may
do
and
thanks
the
Mistress
for
the
privilege
to
do
it.
submissives
educate
themselves
to
proper
Scene
protocols
and
welcome
instruction
according
to
an
individual
Domme's
desires
and
requirements.
A
submissive
is
responsible
for
his
actions
and
takes
pride
in
serving
properly.
he
is
grateful
for
the
training
he
receives
and
the
opportunity
to
serve
his
Domme.
A
submissive
receives
rewards
from
his
proper
service
which,
quite
often,
includes
Play.
he
is
willing
to
test
himself
with
the
goals
of
passing
the
Domme's
tests
and
will
push
his
limits
to
please
Her.
A
submissive
desires
a
Domme
Whom
he
can
truly
love
and
by
Whom
he
can
be
loved.
A
substandard
has
no
real
intention
of
serving
at
all;
how
can
he
when
he
operates
from
self-gratification?
Therefore,
while
caught
up
in
his
fetish
fantasies,
he
offers
lies
to
himself
and
to
the
Dominant.
he
never
READS
a
Domme's
website
and
only
visits
to
view
Her
photos
and
peruse
Her
fetishes
to
see
how
they
fit
his
desires.
A
substandard
resists
training,
discipline
and
change
because
these
are
not
part
of
what
submission
means
to
him;
it
all
just
sounds
good.
substandards
bounce
from
Domme
to
Domme,
looking
for
Someone
to
serve
his
way,
which
ultimately
means
to
serve
him.
There
is
always
the
agenda
to
receive
his
"jollies"
and
most
often
substandards
attempt
to
anger
a
Dominant
with
the
desire
to
be
"punished".
dummes
usually
fall
into
this
silly
trap
and
the
substandard
gets
what
he
wants
without
offering
any
service
~
or
tribute
~
at
all.
The
good
thing
about
this
situation
is
that
even
dummes
learn
to
ostracize
substandards
and
the
offenders
have
to
float
from
community
to
community
until
there
is
nowhere
for
them
to
go
for
the
fulfillment
of
their
kink.
Because
their
desire
is
to
take
without
giving,
they
are
left
unfulfilled
and
empty
throughout
their
lives.
A
troll
is
always
a
substandard
and,
usually,
visa-versa.
Presentation
A
submissive
desires
to
be
an
accoutrement
to
his
Domme,
making
Her
happy
that
he
is
in
Her
service.
In
public,
he
makes
sure
to
pay
attention
to
Her
every
whim
and
desire
to
show
his
excellence
as
a
submissive
and
to
exhibit
the
excellence
of
Her
training.
he
is
proud
to
be
a
representative
of
Her
Domain.
If
he
is
fortunate
enough
to
wear
Her
collar,
he
displays
it
like
a
peacock
spreads
his
tail feathers.
Unattached
submissives
offer
their
services
to
Dommes
with
respect
and
without
attempting
to
illicit
something
from
Her.
(e.g.,
buy
a
Domme
a
drink
at
a
party).
A
submissive
takes
pride
in
his
presentation
to
be
someone
a
Dominant
would
not
only
want
to
Play
with,
but
to
consider
for
long-term
service.
A
submissive
dares
to
bare
himself
to
The
Scene
and
trusts
that
The
Scene
will
embrace
him.
submissives
offer
a
true
value
to
The
Scene;
along
with
Dominants,
they
are
The
Scene.
A
substandard
either
presents
himself
with
flash
in
an
attempt
to
attract
Dominants
to
Play
with
him
or
is
wonderously
lacking
in
his
presentation.
Given
all
that
I've
said
about
a
substandard,
one
would
think
that
he
would
make
some
kind
of
effort
to
achieve
his
fantasy
and
appeal
to
a
Domme.
However,
substandards
believe
that
it
is
the
Domme's
pleasure
-
and
perhaps,
duty
-
to
believe
in
his
illusions
of
his
worthiness
and
esteem.
Because
substandards
truly
place
themselves
above
the
concept
of
the
D/s
lifestyle,
they
always
top-from-the-bottom
(attempt
to
control
the
situation
while
pretending
to
be
submissive)
because
as
kinksters,
they
need
to
manipulate
the
fulfillment
of
their
kink.
When
they
cannot
have
what
they
want,
they
pull
a
"brat"
move
and
try
to
behave
in
a
disrespectful
manner
towards
the
Domme
(one
can
often
see
this
substandard
behavior
on
message
boards).
The
attention
they
hope
to
gain
from
this
is
completely
contrary
to
their
goal
of
finding
someone
to
"pretend
to
play
Domme"
with
them,
but
the
substandard
is
too
self-absorbed
to
see
this.
he
is
also
too
self-absorbed
to
offer
anything
to
the
Domme,
but
will
nearly
(if
not
actually)
pester
Her
to
Play
with
him
and
attempt
to
present
his
fetish
as
a
pleasure
for
Her
(e.g.,
offer
to
rub
Her
feet
while
She
sits
at
the
bar
without
a
beverage).
substandards
offer
nothing
to
The
Scene;
they
are
there
to
leech
off
of
the
energy
and
beauty
of
REAL
Scene
Players.
substandards
are
cowards
who
are
too
afraid
to
actually
venture
into
The
Scene;
they
choose
to
hide
behind
the
"safety
net"
of
pornography's
depiction
of
Our
World.
Play
A
submissive
learns
how
to
communicate
his
limits,
asks
for
safe
words,
and
learns
how
to
properly
request
his
needs
with
the
utmost
respect
from
the
Domme.
he
honors
Her
and
is
usually
rewarded
with
Play
within
his
enjoyments
and
limits.
The
benefits
from
this
behavior
is
the
opportunity
for
future
service
and
Play.
If
the
submissive
pleases
a
Domme
like
Me,
s/he
is
rewarded
with
the
opportunity
to
Play
with
Me
and
My
Domina
Friends.
A
submissive
will
have
his
own
Toys
to
address
his
safety
and
to
please
the
Domme
with
something
different
to
Play
with.
submissives
know
to
keep
their
bodies
clean,
trimmed
and
coiffed.
Smart
submissives
will
take
good
care
of
their
hands,
feet,
nails,
hair
and
skin
to
make
them
appealing
to
the
Domme.
A
submissive
knows
that
presentation
is
everything
and
how
he
speaks
and
approaches
one
Domme
will
set
his
reputation
amongst
Many.
Most
importantly,
after
Play,
a
submissive
knows
to
show
the
proper
appreciation
in
the
way
he
thanks
the
Domme.
A
substandard
begins
his
presentation
to
a
Domme
by
saying
what
he
wants;
sometimes
disguised
in
terms
like,
"i'm
into..."
he
rarely,
if
ever,
offers
the
Domme
anything.
Quite
often,
substandards
attend
as
many
events
as
they
can
with
huge
bags
of
Toys
I
call
these
"luggasubs"
(luggage-substandards),
hoping
that
a
Domme
will
want
to
test
the
Toy
so
that
he
can
get
some
Play
without
offering
anything.
When
asked
to
do
something,
they
conveniently
disappear.
To
validate
his
beliefs
that
there
is
something
wrong
with
everything
and
everyone
else,
he
refuses
to
tribute
in
any
way
-
even
if
Someone
has
Played
with
him.
A
substandard's
attitude
is
that
there
would
be
no
Dommes
without
submissives
(which,
in
My
opinion,
is
true
and
there
would
also
be
no
submissives
without
Dominants),
but
he
fails
to
see
that
he
is
not
submissive.
Nor
does
he
see
that
there
will
always
be
Dominants
and
submissives
without
substandards.
Conclusion
A
submissive
is
clear
that
a
Dominant/submissive
lifestyle
is
happiness
and
will
create
himself
to
receive
the
training,
discipline
and
essence
of
The
Scene
to
achieve
it.
submissives
understand
that
love,
personal
growth
and
spiritual
evolution
are
the
result
of
service.
The
solace
of
acceptance,
caring
and
comfort
in
service
to
a
Domme
are
attainable
goals
for
a
REAL
submissive.
The
opportunity
for
mutual
evolution
is
a
reality
for
the
submissive
and
the
Dominant.
A
substandard,
on
the
other
hand,
will
never
find
fulfillment
from
his
self-imposed
limitations
by
refusing
to
educate
himself
and
explore
what
The
Scene
has
to
offer
and
what
he
can
offer
to
The
Scene.
A
substandard's
goal
is
to
fill
the
void
of
his
lack
of
self-love
and
acceptance
by
siphoning
the
energies
of
D/s
and
BDSM
to
feel
alive
through
the
satisfaction
of
his
kink.
This
is
a
dead
existence
which
always
leads
to
disappointment,
emptiness
and
loss.
The
substandard
sets
himself
up
to
be
a
loser
and
will
have
nothing
but
unhappiness
and
the
reality
of
self-debasement
as
the
only
outcome
of
the
path
he
chooses
to
take.
Hopefully,
a
substandard
may
understand
the
need
to
relinquish
his
selfishness
to
be
able
to
transcend
through
Fetish,
but,
perhaps,
this
is
My
fantasy...
