December 29th, 20-MEleven!

The Mistress Didi* Commands

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There is no excuse for walking passed Me (or any Dominant) in a public BDSM venue to introduce yourself to MY sub and OUT him by addressing him by his legal name (provided by a former friend who is so impressed with her belief in her intelligence that she never sees how easily she continues to be manipulated by losers) - especially when I introduced MY sub to everyone I wanted to introduce him to by his Scene Name.  The offender, an insidious excuse for a "master," is so obsessed with Me and My life that his heinous breach of protocol endangered My sub's child custody battle, causing Me to end My relationship with THE sub of My dreams and love of My life.  (I will never stand in the way of a good parent's relationship with her/his children.  That's what responsible people do and what Real Love looks like in action.)

This miscreant's consistent transgressions against Me - while he called himself a "dear friend" - have included pathological lying, cheating, stealing money and property from Me, attempting to sabotage My events and relationships, and using My name and reputation to gain favors and introductions to influential people in The Scene.  This creep's numerous offenses have caused Me to cut him off from Me and My Domain for more than 3 years - which is the greatest punishment because I AM THE FETISH that I want to be - and obviously what he wants to be, too.  I now understand the look in his father's eyes, clearly wishing he had been the son who'd died.  he should change his name to "mirage" to reflect the enormity of his delusions of grandeur in the vast desert of his reality, which completely lacks of any talent, integrity, intelligence, and value.

I have forgiven Myself for taking pity on yet another corny, slob by permitting him to attend events with Me (after creating a sense of style for him not to publicly embarrass Me); introducing him to Fetish Luminaries who were My "friends"; helping him save his marriage via My counseling services with his wife; permitting Myself to be someone his children adored; and setting him up to have a dungeon with that same, silly dumme - who should apologize for her errors and arrogance, but of course, has not.  It is not My crime that My kindness has been repaid with treachery. 

I neither tolerate nor dismiss the sanctimonious attitudes of people who've ignored Me when I've told them many times, over the past 3 years, about this loser's offenses.  Not only have some ignored Me, but, after I expressly and repeatedly requested that they do not discuss any aspect of My life with him, they have contributed to him being able to spy on and invade My life to the point of creating irreparable damage.  They've even had the audacity to be annoyed with ME when I made such requests of them for MY well-being and safety because the offender "never did anything" to them. 

This is the same type of behavior exhibited by people who tell a rape victim that s/he should not have been walking down that street and who cry the loudest at the funerals of victims who have been killed by the same stalkers the victims complained to them about.   Fortunately for Me, I've told each and every culprit that WHEN they've offended Me beyond repair, that they WILL be added to the list of people who will always try to regain entry into My Domain.  And here We are.  In a very short amount of time, they will realize that they miss Me more than I will ever miss them because I AM THE FETISH that I want to be.  That's what is so good about "predictable disappointments" -  they are predictable!  So, when they fail any benefits of doubt you extend to them, you are emotionally prepared while they never are.  And they suffer... as they should.

In a previous newsletter, I wrote a segment on OUTTING OR PROTECTING.  However, Karma is a wonderful thing.  To protect My friends, I told a few people I care for about this idiot and cohort's offenses and guess what?  Someone powerful, who truly appreciates all that I create for True Fetishists to enjoy the finer aspects of Our Scene, has stepped in to protect Me and you from the possibility of suffering such horrors in the future from people whose behaviors have raged out of control because no one else has been responsible enough to put them in check.  I absolutely LOVE that I have NOT had to do anything and the perpetrators themselves are responsible for the solution to this problem!  Here's what's been done to date:

I maintain that if you are not a part of the solution, you are a part of the problem.  I hope that these barbarians (and others like them) see that the reason the FBI took the initiative to get involved was created by their insidious behaviors.  What's more, I hope that people reading this will step up to protect Our Scene by taking action to prevent creeps from continuing to ruin and make it a sleaze-fest for the abominable.  The habit of permitting offenders to hide in the shadows by remaining silent makes YOU a party to the harm these creeps cause to all of Us.

These pathetic people and their obsessions with Me and Mine are why another of My mottos is: "Don't start none, won't be none..."  EVERY person who has been cut off from Me and My Domain ALWAYS tries to return - ALWAYS.  The reason for this is because I come from LOVE; I focus on a person's strengths, talents, and their potential for greatness and teach them how to appreciate themselves.  Sadly, these people begin to believe that they are greater than the goodness I've shown them about themselves - and without merit, of course.  They become jealous, controlling, petty - all the things you read and hear them say about Me as they babble on with obvious "sour grape" scenarios.  Because what they say about Me does not matter to Me or to the people I care about, they creepily go to great lengths to get My attention, which they so desperately miss and need.  One of the greatest gifts that I give to Myself is to withhold My greatness from the unworthy.  When you love yourself, you don't need to harass, invade, berate, etc.  You are enough to be happy with your own life.  The pity of it all is how many miserable creatures there are who are too lazy to do the work to improve themselves to create their happiness; instead they seek to destroy yours.

Fortunately for all involved, I believe in Karma.  I also understand "humanoid" behavior, particularly behaviors of those whose lack of self-love, worth, and esteem foster pretensions that keep them prisoners to repeating the same mistakes over and over again because they will not learn and grow beyond their desperate, ego-personas in order to avoid facing their TRUE selves.  Sadist that I am, I enjoy knowing that the suffering they caused Me and Mine is much less than the suffering that their offenses to Me now and will continue to cause them.  They created their punishments and tortures, which are well deserved. 

May 2012 bring an end to the rampant wickedness and bring a new birth to the Beauty of The Fetish Lifestyle!  And may you always see your Truth when you look in the mirror.

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I have been answering emails and writing advice columns for more years than I've admitted to being alive.  Recently, during this year's Storm of Egomaniacs, I've come to realize that I get infinitely more from offering advice to the worthy, who politely seek it, than casting My Pearls of Wisdom to assist others in building their internet presence while I get nothing for My contributions.  After all, they always come to Me; I never approach them.  The only reason I contribute to their projects is because experience has taught Me that there is always someone who is searching for the Enlightened Fetish Path who finds Me via these things.  To know that I can be of assistance to someone who can find joy through The Beauty of Fetish in this wasteland of sleaze is joyous to Me.

So, I have decided to take what's Mine and make it easily and intelligently available on My Websites.  You can find the growing compilation of Ask Mistress Didi* on My Website and keep up with new posts via RSS and email notifications.

Highlight for the month is My advice on Forgiveness ~ perfect for this New Year to choose to maintain your power!

If you have a question that has NOT already been addressed, you may Ask Mistress Didi*.  You can also follow @AskMistressDidi on Twitter.  Remember your manners...  I'm a Domme, not your mom. 

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SWIRL is a ClassicFetish™ After-Work Meet & Greet Play Party where you can Blend your Fetish with your vanilla! The SWIRL Family  is growing with the Finest Fetishist in the Tri-State area.  My mission to bring together exceptional people of like minds and energies continues to manifest to improve the state of Our Scene.  Meet The SWIRL Divas and Divos Who will be in attendance at upcoming soirees! I created SWIRL for you to be able to attend an affordable, all-inclusive, PRIVATE, Fetish gathering straight from work, have good conversations with good people you want to Play with, enjoy fine beverages and hors d'oeuvres, and still get enough rest to work the next day!  (Read The Policy on Drinking at My Events)  I believe in building the Fetish Community rather than solely seeking to profit from it. Read the review of SWIRL 7/28 in Socially Superlative Magazine

What makes My events unique is that I design an exceptional Fetish experience to attend to your desire to entertain what thrills you in a civilized, adult environment that appeals to your senses and sensibilities.  My events are an alternative to the "loud & crowd" collections.  My MUSIC is specifically formulated for a multi-cultural & comfortable groove, played at conversational decibel levels, and to boost your endorphin flow for added pleasure!   I also choose CLEAN, plush venues where you don't have to worry about sitting in body fluids from the swinger party the night before...

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A few folks have been singing the low-funds-blues, so if you are experiencing a bit of a cash drought, contact My assistant to be of service at the party with ample opportunities to enjoy yourself. 

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In case you're new here or haven't figured it out, the quotes that I choose
always represent the theme of the current issue.
This Issue's Theme is about Karma, finding balance & evolving past retribution.

"Still others commit all sorts of evil deeds, claiming Karma doesn't exist. They erroneously maintain that since everything is empty, committing evil isn't wrong. Such persons fall into a hell of endless darkness with no hope of release.
Those who are wise hold no such conception."

~ Bodhidharma

"The life I touch for good or ill will touch another life, and that in turn another, until who knows where the trembling stops or
in what far place my touch will be felt. "

~ Frederick Buechner

"Watch your thoughts, for they become words. Watch your words, for they become actions. Watch your actions, for they become habits. Watch your habits, for they become character. Watch your character, for it becomes your destiny."

~ Unknown

"Karma is not just about the troubles, but also about surmounting them."

~ Rick Springfield

"My Karma ran over your dogma."

~ Anonymous

"Always forgive your enemies - nothing annoys them so much."
~ Oscar Wilde

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